Distract your child from bad emotions
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Let me talk to your brother, help them get to a more calm state by distracting them and putting that energy into something more helpful. Like listening to music, running drains, screaming into a pillow, or maybe even like shaking out the energy. I know sometimes I get that anxious energy and if I just like shake it off, it kind of helps a little bit when they are more calm and seem to be more open to conversation. That's when you can talk to them. Hey, remember earlier when you got really upset because your brother hit you in the head with a ball, let's talk about that. I totally understand why he got mad because that will make me mad too. However, punching him in the face and throwing his ball into the neighbor's backyard is not the best answer. And then help them problem solve. What should we have done differently?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Should we have acid adult for help? Maybe take a deep breath, tell the brother that you're angry, that the ball hit you and you were like an apology help, help them and discuss ways on how they could. Self-Regulate their emotions like maybe deep breathing, walking away, meditation, finding some sort of positive distraction. So oftentimes we wait until the crisis happens. Are we going to lecture mode, expecting them to know how to calm themselves down already? I find that having regular conversations and practicing skills is more effective. For example, we're not going to wait to the day of the big football game and practice and run those plays or wait until the day of the piano recital to learn and play that piece. You're going to practice days, weeks, even months leading up to that big event. So when it comes, you're ready, it's the same way.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
It's the same with emotional regulation skills practice, even when things are calm. So when the crisis comes, the skills are known like the back of your hand. I know sometimes I forget that these children and adolescents are still young. I have to remind myself that my child is eight and she's only been in the world for eight years. I have to remember that I need to be patient. It's not reasonable for me to expect her to behave like a little adult. They have to be taught how to regulate their emotions. And there are many fantastic books and resources out there on how to do that. However, if you feel that your child could use some extra support from a professor from a professional, please don't hesitate to do that.
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