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Liz Weaver (00:00):

In today's video, we have Evan Porter. Evan is a dad parenting writer and blogger. His home is rapidly filling up with children and dogs. Evan is learning day by day, how to manage the chaos in this video, Evan shares, what did and did not work when his own daughter had emotional meltdowns let's watch.


Evan Porter (00:22):

So my daughter has been getting a really, really down on herself when she makes a mistake in her art or her spelling. And she'll just get, so inconsolably upset that she's ruined, you know, whatever it is that she's working on. When this first started happening, I would get really upset too. That'd be really frustrated that I couldn't get her to calm down. And surprisingly that didn't work that usually just made things worse, obviously. And then after that, I, I tried being really, really positive and encouraging and, and trying to like really get her pumped up and cheered back up and get her in the mood to fix what she was working on or keep working or, or move on or whatever it might be. And it turned out that that didn't really work all that well either. And that actually tended to make her meltdowns a little bit worse too.



A Safe Space and Support

Evan Porter (01:11):

And these days what's working the best for us is really to just give her the space she needs to work through those emotions that she's feeling when she is upset that she's made a mistake. You know, I'll be, I'll very, very gently sort of reassure her and comfort her. And if she wants, you know, offer ideas for how she might be able to solve the problem. But really most often I just kind of gently back away and I I'm, I let her know that I love her and that I'm right in the next room if she needs me, but I need to let her work through that on her own and, and do a little bit of problem solving. I think the thing is that kids have so much to learn about their own emotions, that they really can't handle dealing with yours as well.


Evan Porter (01:52):

And it's, it's a really unfair thing to put on kids to have to ask them to manage, you know, you when you're upset or you're frustrated. And so the best thing you can do is really just remain kind of that rock for them and give them the support. They need to figure out what they're going through. And whenever I'm in, you know, a tense situation or a conflict with my daughter or a tantrum, anything or anything like that, it sounds simple or even overly simple. But I think the best thing to do in those tense situations is to maybe go to another room for a second, just take a couple of deep breaths and get your self in the right space to go back in there and handle the situation properly. What they need is a safe space and the support from you to work through their own emotions. They don't need you raining down your feelings of anger or frustration or disappointment on them.



Make sure to watch the full documentary on childhood emotions. You'll learn how to help your child manage their own emotions. You'll learn about your own emotions and how they affect your child. And you'll learn simple ways of helping children improve behavior.

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Just give her the space she needs to work through those emotions that she's feeling when she is upset

Key Takeaways:

Asking a child to calm down usually doesn't work
Trying to be positive doesn't ussually work
Adding in your emotions doesn't ussually work

How Parents Emotions Affect Their Children and What to Do About It - Evan Porter

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