Imani Francies (03:59):
So say you decide for that your kid is angry. You can say, I think you are angry right now, or I think you were angry. Note that I'm saying, I think it's important to say, think because you never want to get your kid to start thinking that they have to come to you to decipher their emotions. So if you say, I think it implies that mommy and daddy is not all-knowing, mommy doesn't know what you're feeling like. I am just giving you my opinion. So there is leaving that possibility in their head that there may be a different emotion that they're feeling, and that gives them pushes them in a direction to think more about their feelings and think more about what they're feeling. So once you get that out, your kid may respond. They may say, no, I don't feel angry or I'm not angry.
Imani Francies (05:00):
And that's okay, listen to them, let them know, okay. I understand mommy, here's you mommy, dad, mommy, here's you, daddy hears you and then give him ways, alternatives and deal with their emotions. So you can say, instead of rolling on the floor to tell mommy that you don't feel good, you can, you can tap my finger or you can pull me to the side or you can make a certain face, whatever works best with your kid. So they can better communicate with your feelings while working through this process remember that you have to be patient, you have to be understanding and you have to be open. This is all new for your kid. And if it's your first kid is, if it's your first time doing this with a kid, it's going to be new for you. So it's important to be calm patient cool, calm, collected. I mean, it takes time. But consistency is key. And the more that you work with your kid, the more that you have open ended questions that allows them to engage and to thread through the depths of emotions on their own. Given them an opportunity to do that. They'll, they'll start to better control their emotions and communicate them with you.
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