Evan Porter (01:11):
And these days what's working the best for us is really to just give her the space she needs to work through those emotions that she's feeling when she is upset that she's made a mistake. You know, I'll be, I'll very, very gently sort of reassure her and comfort her. And if she wants, you know, offer ideas for how she might be able to solve the problem. But really most often I just kind of gently back away and I I'm, I let her know that I love her and that I'm right in the next room if she needs me, but I need to let her work through that on her own and, and do a little bit of problem solving. I think the thing is that kids have so much to learn about their own emotions, that they really can't handle dealing with yours as well.
Evan Porter (01:52):
And it's, it's a really unfair thing to put on kids to have to ask them to manage, you know, you when you're upset or you're frustrated. And so the best thing you can do is really just remain kind of that rock for them and give them the support. They need to figure out what they're going through. And whenever I'm in, you know, a tense situation or a conflict with my daughter or a tantrum, anything or anything like that, it sounds simple or even overly simple. But I think the best thing to do in those tense situations is to maybe go to another room for a second, just take a couple of deep breaths and get your self in the right space to go back in there and handle the situation properly. What they need is a safe space and the support from you to work through their own emotions. They don't need you raining down your feelings of anger or frustration or disappointment on them.
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