Christine Maziarz (06:59):
Like how does it feel? Where is it sitting in your body? And do you like it? So that's all the breath in, on, on the breath out. As you slowly breathe out, gift yourself with time to notice the thoughts that are causing that emotion. Where are your thoughts? What are they? Is it one thought? Is it 10 thoughts? Do you like them? And are they valid? This is a really good question because your child getting even, yeah. And AF on a marking period does not mean they're going to be homeless later, but guess what? Our minds can go there. Right? Totally can. Your second breath P is for presence breathing in. I'd like you to focus on your breath, entering your body, feel where it wants to land and see, especially if it's a shallow breath. If you can make it go a little deeper and then try to hold it for a couple of seconds, then with presence, we're going to focus on your breath out on your child.
Christine Maziarz (08:02):
What I want you to do is to notice if there's anything about them that you did not notice two minutes ago, is there a tear in their eye? What color are their clothes? Where are they focused on looking? Do you see something on their face that you didn't notice before? Once you to be truly present with them? Now your final breath is S four speaking. I want you to hear me out on this, okay? This is your chance to model good emotional health and processing to your child and to share it with them verbally. So as you breathe in and out slowly, I would like you to organize your thoughts in a way to share with your child, what you were experiencing and where you want to go with that. If anger is what you're experiencing, try something along the lines of this. I hear you, my emotions want to be angry right now.
Christine Maziarz (09:02):
I don't want to be angry. I love you. And I want to listen to you fully and get to a different place. So while I take the time to choose a different emotion, can you tell me more about the situation? How are you feeling? Okay, now adjust that however you want, but this final focused breath and requests gifts, not only you, but your child, and this really is important. It gifts your child with the time and space to share additional information with you that they might not have shared with. You had you immediately gone in with them, with the angry emotion and just would've started talking. And all those words started coming out. And at this point, your job is to notice your thoughts, your emotions, until listen to your child with love, listen with love. And yes, I'm going to say it again. Listen with love and repeat the GPS, emotional reset exercise, as much as needed use what works for you in that and throw away what doesn't adjust and modify. But really what's most important here is not only are you getting a handle on your emotions, but you're modeling away for your child to do that. You have the ability to impact generations to come in your family. As you learn to do this, it's truly amazing. Parenting is not easy, but you are doing an amazing job at it. Thanks for being here.
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