So Dustin. After all those glorious victories. After all those wins. From elementary school. To middle school. And freshman, sophomore, and junior year of high school. He was a star. He ate it up.
Then came his senior year.
Dustin was looking forward to it. Finally, his senior year had come. He was looking forward to his most victorious football year yet. And after that, there would be college. And oh the fun of being a college football star. That was going to be just amazing.
Except for one thing…
Dustin strolled into tryouts. He had had a great summer and was looking forward to showing his stuff to the new coach.
Impress he would.
Except that he didn’t :-(
Dustin did not make the team.
He was crushed. His Dad was crushed.
Life fell apart for Dustin. (As I write this he’s probably playing video games in his parent's basement.)
Dustin never pulled it back together. He’s about to hit 30 and has never done anything to better himself since that day.
He has not gone to college.
He can barely hold down a job. Even if it’s just washing dishes at the local greasy spoon.
Oh, well, there are video games. He is pretty amazing at video games… but that's unlikely to get him anywhere.
So why did Dustin not make the team?
Was he not a team player?
No that wasn't it. He was actually incredibly friendly and social and loved his teammates.
Poor skills?
No, he was probably the most talented player on the team.
So what was it?
He didn't try hard. He didn't put in the effort. (But there's a reason for that)
So was he lazy?
Nope, that's not it. He appeared to be lazy. But that was just a facade.
What was it?
Dustin had an extreme anxiety about "trying to hard"
Sounds weird, doesn't it?.
Well, it's actually very common. And chances are, your child has it. Or is on the way to developing it.
So let's understand the why? Before that happens to your child.