What's important here is what's going on at a very deep biological level. A level so deep that they were born with it.
We have to remember, that at a very deep biological level, your disapproval is perceived as extremely dangerous by your child.
At this deep level, they know they need you to survive. So your approval or disapproval is, at the deepest biological level, life or death.
Obviously, you care for your child and would do anything to keep them from harm. But we are talking biology and emotions here, not logic.
And this deep-seated biology is what makes your reactions, your approval methods, and your guidance both powerful and dangerous.
It's like dynamite.
Dynamite can be used in construction to build wonderful things like roads and bridges.
Or used wrong, it can be used to destroy.
When it comes to building your child's future HOW you give approval, guidance, and help is just as powerful.
Which is why you really want to get it right. It's important to use the best tools available to you. This is tricky business.
There is a lot of psychology behind why proper praise and guidance causes a child to try hard and eventually succeed, no matter what the obstacle.