Kelsey Komorowski - Komo Consulting - Do identify the source of the resistance. Okay. Getting past the, I just don't like it. I don't wanna do it.
It's stupid. And really drilling down to uncover the genuine reason for the resistance. Okay. Some students resist out of fear. Right. They're afraid that if they try, they won't actually be able to do it, and they'd rather not try than fail. Um, some think that they're bad at the subject, right? I'm just bad at math.
I don't have a brain, math brain or what have you. Um, other students just think it's irrelevant, right? When am I ever gonna have to do this? Why would I bother? It's a waste of time. So there are a lot of potential reasons for why your child is resisting homework, and absolute number one is identifying what is the real reason for why they're resisting.
And then from there, depending on what that reason is, that is what will determine the strategies and the next best steps to take.
Arvin Vohra - Vohra Method - So let's look at what causes people to, what causes students to simply not want to do any homework at all. The most common situation, the most common, and this is 99.9% of situations, is that there's some underlying issue, some underlying gap in understanding or knowledge that is causing the student to not be able to even understand what the homework is. So, uh, to use this very simple example, suppose that the homework is about multiplication and the student doesn't understand addition, and all the student's able to do in that situation is basically try to commit some random formulas, rules of thumb to rote, none of which is going to help his long term or even short term understanding.
This process is so pointless and so unpleasant that many students will simply refuse to do it. Now when their younger students they can't necessarily explain that, they can't say, Listen, listen, you know, mom, or, Listen dad, I'm missing some underlying cognitive concepts, and I feel that they're, they're just gonna say they don't wanna do it.
It's really easy to misinterpret this as laziness, but it is almost never laziness. It is not Laziness. Just like a kid who's saying I can't play anymore in soccer is not being lazy, just might be injured. When a, when a, when a student is saying that I cannot do this, I don't want to do this, it is almost never laziness. It is almost always an underlying gap. And the first thing that you need to do is to find those underlying gaps.